Proverbs 25:9-10 – Debate your case with your neighbor, and don’t betray the confidence of another; lest one who hears it put you to shame, and your bad reputation never depart.
We are instructed in this verse to debate our case with our neighbour – to take up issues we have with others directly.
It can be tempting to moan about the issues we have with someone to a third party. But the Bible tells us ‘Don’t betray their confidence’. Don’t talk about a person’s issues with other people.
If we talk widely about problems we have with a person – then someone who hears it might put to us to shame. We will become known as a gossip – and that reputation will be difficult to break.
Keep it simple. Deal directly with people causing you problems – don’t spread it around.